so my ex and i have been split for about a year now. he and i do not see eye to eye on anything and try to keep contact to a minimum. 6 months ago i started dating my best friend of over 20 yrs. this was a shock to my ex, (but not bigger than the shock to me and neil when we figured out we were in love) anyway, my ex started throwing out all kinds of rules and regulations he wanted followed and making threats to call police when the one time my bf and my girls were together at a swim party and they all played together.

so now, my ex has started seeing someone. i was very happy at first cuz it takes his focus off of me. his new gf is 24 (he is 48) they have been seeing eachother about 3 wks and she is already pretty much living there, so far all goo, i don't care, untill after his weekend visit last weekend his new gf calls my daughters the next day to tell them she loves them and misses them already. this doesn't sit well with me, but i let it go mostly because my ex is totaly irrational and having a rational conversation with him is impossible. so today my girls come home and i find out that the new gf has my girls cuddeling in bed with her and my ex is having her deal with "her" girls when he is in a bad mood and doesn' feel like it.

now i'm not real into leting this stuff go. it's way too over the top for me at this point. i have purposly kep6t my time with my bf and my girls to a minimum so as to let my girls get used to the whole mommy has a bf thing and bring him into their lives in this capasity slowly. my ex doesn't get that concept and i'm at a loss as to how to handel this situation. am i just over reacting or am i justified in this not "feeling" right?